Small Groups

At Incarnation, we seek to live out what happens in our worship on Sunday morning. This means that we are committed to building a strong and vibrant culture that flows out our experience of the life of God. God is not an impersonal force, but a community of persons (Father, Son, and Holy Spirit) who have loved each other for all eternity. Since we are made in the image of God, part of what it means to be human is to be created in and for community. Simply put, you cannot be truly human or truly yourself apart from loving relationships with other people. For this reason, we have organized our church into geographically focused groups of families and individuals.

Small Group Locations

Find the group nearest to your home:

College Avenue Group — Wednesday 6:00–8:00 pm

At the home of Ernie and Katrina Didot

845 College Ave., Harrisonburg 22802

Contact: Josh Defnall

Dayton Group — Wednesday 6:00–8:30 pm

At the home of Aaron and Paula Cook

1631 Silver Lake Rd., Dayton 22821

Contact: Paula Cook

Lakewood Group — Wednesday 6:15–8:30 pm

At the home of Jed and Kristi Pascarella

3041 Lakewood Dr., Harrisonburg 22801

Contact: Kristi Pascarella

Maplehurst Avenue Group — Thursday 6:00–8:00 pm

At the home of Ben and Stevie Velker

75 Maplehurst Ave., Harrisonburg 22801

Contact: Andrew White

New Market Group — Wednesday 6:00–8:00 pm

At the home of George and Rebecca Daugharty

17 Tee Ct., New Market, VA 22844

Contact: Kevin Finnegan

Parkway Drive Group — Wednesday 6:30–8:30 pm

At the home of Drew and Mary Elizabeth Dilday

1141 Parkway Dr., Harrisonburg, VA 22802

Contact: Drew Dilday

Preston Heights Group — Wednesday 6:00–8:00 pm

At the home of Kenlyn and Carolyn Miller

457 Preston Dr., Harrisonburg, VA 22801

Contact: Gabby Wenos

Smith Avenue Group — Tuesday 6:00–8:00 pm

At the home of Mike and Donna Trainum

969 Smith Ave., Harrisonburg, VA 22802

Contact: Daniel Zimmerman

Spring Oaks Group — Wednesday 6:15–8:30 pm

At the home of Jim and Brenda Kidd

630 Spring Oaks Dr., Harrisonburg 22801

Contact: Brenda Kidd

Staunton Group — Thursday 6:00–8:00 pm

At the home of Casey and Ann Musselman

409 Thornrose Ave., Staunton, VA 24401

Contact: Ann Musselman

Staunton East Group — Wednesday 6:00–8:00 pm

At the home of Caleb and Katie Kramer

304 Lewis Creed Rd., Verona, VA 24482

Contact: Katie Kramer

West Gay Group — Thursday 6:00–8:30 pm

At the home of Josh and Laura Lowe

56 W Gay St., Harrisonburg 22802

Contact: Leanne Wickline

West Market Group — Wednesday 6:00–8:00 pm

At the home of Nick and Caryn Kozel

276 W Market St., Harrisonburg, VA 22801

Contact: Nell-Marie Colman

*Please note that some of our small groups meet less frequently throughout the summer. Contact Drew Dilday ( or a small group leader for details.

What is a Small Group? 

Each of our small groups seeks to be a place where people can experience significant, substantial, encouraging friendships. While each small group is different, having its own personality, five actions form a common thread

1. We read the Bible together. 
Jesus said, “These words I speak to you are not incidental additions to your life, homeowner improvements to your standard of living. They are foundational words, words to build a life on. If you work these words into your life, you are like a smart carpenter who built his house on solid rock" (Matthew 7: 24, The Message). 

2. We pray together. 
We believe God acts differently when we pray than when we don’t pray. When we pray together, not only does God hear and answer our prayers, but our relationships with one another are solidified, and we can begin to care deeply about one another.

3. We share together. 
The first act that Jesus performed with his disciples after the resurrection was to share a meal. Eating and drinking together, celebrating the joy of the resurrection life, is a huge piece of our life together as the people of God who share in the life of God. Furthermore, talking about what is happening in our lives, both formally and informally, is a significant way in which a person increasingly is known and has the opportunity to know others more deeply. 

4. We serve one another. 
The extravagant generosity of Jesus Christ toward us compels us to be generous in our service to one another. Small groups are the front lines of care for our church. A phone call and prayer, a pot of soup, an afternoon cleaning someone's house, watching their kids, running errands— these are practical ways that we live out our Christian faith. 

5. We reach out to our neighbors together. 
If our Christian faith does not translate into blessing for our neighbors and city then something is terribly wrong. We encourage our small groups to think like missionaries. Since each group is rooted in its own particular neighborhood, this will take many different forms: direct or personal evangelism, neighborhood parties, caring for those who are weak or vulnerable, and strategic partnerships with community organizations that are working to improve our community and serve “the least of these.” 

Why are Small Groups Geographically Based? 
We believe that the Triune God is sovereign over all areas of life, and this includes the particular neighborhood/area where we live. We believe that where we actually live is exceedingly important. In the book of Jeremiah God calls his people to fully engage in the places where they are situated in very specific tasks that will bless their neighbors and enrich their community. Likewise, our Lord Jesus calls us to love our neighbors. As Jesus said, this is the greatest commandment behind the love of God. When Jesus answered the important question “who is my neighbor” in the parable of the Good Samaritan (Luke 10), he highlighted the characteristics of proximity and time. Because we live in an excessively busy culture, it is hard to overemphasize these characteristics in relation to practical love. Simply put: we cannot love those we don’t see and spend time with. We must see and spend time with those we live near. This reality, though, may challenge our idols of individualism, choice, and relationships based on affinity. Our neighbors may be different from us in many ways. Jesus anticipated this scenario in his parable about the Good Samaritan—it may be our racial/cultural "enemy" that we are called to love or, as in the parable, that "enemy" might humble and teach us by demonstrating self-giving love toward us. 

In light of this call toward our neighbors, we have divided our church into geographically based small groups. In the future, we hope to further localize our small groups in order to more effectively carry out our vision.